Human Expectations

Written by Victoria Leal

It is unrealistic to put expectations on others. We live in a world where we have become accustomed to expecting certain people to act a certain way, according to our wishes and desires and this unrealistic custom is most prevalent in the area of male/female relationships. As women, we expect our man to act a certain way with us, to say certain things to us, to express his desire for us in the way that we want him to. And because these expectations are based on a false truth, they are doomed to fail. The same principle applies to men and their expectations of the women in their lives.

This principle is largely based on societies, past and present. It has always been the man's responsibility to take care of his woman and his family by providing their needed support. Just as it has always been the woman's responsibility to take care of her man, the children, and the home; to be the nurturer and care giver; usually without much thought of her own wants and needs. There are many more examples of the separation of the roles of men and women but I won't go into them here. You know what they are...you know what you have been taught.

But let me ask you a question: How would you feel if you determined that everything you have been taught about the relationship between men and women and their respective roles, was wrong? A lot would say that their teachings originated from the bible, beginning with Adam and Eve, and can't possibly be wrong!

I do not challenge your beliefs because from a human standpoint, what ever you believe is true because it is true for you. But consider this truth: You are not the human body that you perceive yourself to be. You are the Power and Presence of God having a human experience, with all of its flaws and limitations. There is no separation between the Spirit, which is you, and the magnificent Spirit of this universe. Because you are the Spirit of all that is and all that will be, you are, right now in this moment, complete, whole, and perfect.

However, because we do not fully realize who we really are, we tend to look for answers we seek outside of ourselves. We tend to believe that someone else can make us happy; that someone else can cause us to experience joy or pain, for that matter; that someone else can love us better than we can love ourselves; or that someone else can actually make us feel less than the awesome Power and Presence of God.

You have built-in perfection; perfectly equipped with everything you need to survive this experience. When you start looking within yourself for the answers you seek, instead of outside of you, there you will find the truth of who you really are and you will begin to see the perfect order of this universe and an answer no longer becomes necessary. You will begin to see the magnificence that is you! This same magnificence is within all of us. You will no longer feel that all of your solutions are outside of yourself and by learning to appreciate who you really are, as well as those around you; you will see how futile it is to expect someone else to provide what you already possess.

You are now free to share this wonderful experience called life with those whom you love, knowing that each of you are already whole, complete, and perfect...without lack, limitations, and without expectations.

About the Author:
Victoria Leal is the Owner of Reality Check.bravehost.com.  To find helpful information on how to live the kind of life you deserve, please visit: http://realitycheck.bravehost.com  This article is copyright  2007 by Victoria Leal and may be reprinted in it's entirety as long as this byline and copyright statement are included.